“Call upon the name of the Lord; the name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe.” — Proverbs 18:10
Today, I stand at a crossroads. I had to make a choice: give up my dream for my children, or press into God’s promise and ask Him to bless me, enlarge my territory, and protect me. (Jabez prayer) I cried out, “Lord, don’t let me settle for less than what You’ve purposed.”
If you’re reading this — perhaps you, too, are weary, stretched, and wondering how to carry on — this is for you. Don’t Give Up: The Cry of a Single Mum — Claim Blessing Now.
When you’re operating in the tension of provision and promise, in seasons where your bank account is empty but your faith is full, that’s when the real stories are born. Today, I want to share my own journey, the lessons I’m learning, and how I lean into God when it feels like the world is pressing in.
The Stress That Pushes You to God
They said it couldn’t be done — or at least, you couldn’t do it. A school event needed 3,000 shillings. In many homes, that’s nothing. In my world, it loomed large.
Working in a place where pay is uncertain often means living in constant anxiety. As of October 16th, I had not been paid for September. I had hoped that today would bring relief. Unfortunately, when I realized it wouldn’t, panic rose inside me. I reached out to friends; one came through, and for that, I’m grateful. Yet afterward, I felt hollow — like my strength had been drained completely.
At that moment, I ran to God and whispered the Jabez prayer:
“Oh, that You would bless me indeed, and enlarge my territory,
Let Your hand be with me, and keep me from harm, and cause me to avoid evil…”
I needed more than a quick fix. What I needed was a God who could stretch His hand over my life, protect me, and empower me to say yes to the dreams I had for my children.
The Quiet Place: Finding Solitude to Hear God
When life noise becomes deafening — with people’s opinions, impossible expectations, bills, and responsibilities — silence becomes sacred. One afternoon, I walked into a grove of trees, away from people, where the wind rustled the leaves, and I could finally hear my own heart.
There, I told God everything.
- “I love my children. I want them to grow and flourish.”
- “I don’t want them to miss opportunities because of my lack.”
- “I can’t keep borrowing hope from others.”
- “If people tell me to give up — help me stand firm in Your purpose for me.”
That quiet conversation wasn’t dramatic; it was raw. Yet God didn’t leave me hanging. He reminded me of His promises: provision, enlargement, protection.
As I sat there, Proverbs 18:10 came alive: “The name of the LORD is a strong tower; the righteous run into it and are safe.” I ran, I hid, and ultimately, I surrendered.
When Others Say “Let It Go”
One of the hardest parts of this journey is hearing people around you say your dreams are too big. Comments like, “You don’t have capacity,” or “It’s too lofty for your situation,” sting deeply.
However, I’ve learned this truth: God’s dream for you will always stretch you beyond your comfort zone.
While those voices can wound, they don’t define your future. They whisper, “You can’t.” But God whispers louder: “I’ve called you. I will equip you.”
So to every single mum who has been told to shrink her dream because of lack, remember this:
- You are not too much.
- Your children deserve the best your faith can produce.
- God Himself will defend your purpose when others misunderstand.
Lessons from Past Reflections
Sometimes, looking back helps us move forward. I’ve found strength in my earlier reflections on Lobby Reflections:
- In The Cost of Leadership, I talked about the burden that comes with leading — especially when resources are scarce. Leadership demands sacrifice and a vision bigger than immediate comfort.
- In Faith in Desperate Times: Trusting God to Fill Empty Jars, we explored the seasons when our “jars” feel empty, yet God still fills them.
- And in Redemption for Families: Judah and Tamar, I shared how even broken stories can be rewritten by grace.
These reflections remind me that every trial is part of a larger redemption story God is still writing.
Strategies I’m Embracing: Practical Steps While You Wait
Faith without works is dead, so I try to balance prayer with action. Here’s what I’m doing while waiting on God:
- Small Gigs and Side Hustles
Even a small income stream helps. Maybe you can tutor, bake, deliver, or offer a skill you already have. - Budget Tightening and Priorities
I now focus on essentials — food, school, rent — and review everything else carefully. - Community and Accountability
Staying connected to friends who pray and speak truth keeps me grounded. - Daily Retreats
It doesn’t have to be dramatic. Ten minutes of journaling or quiet prayer realigns my heart. - Speaking the Word
Each morning, I declare scriptures: “God will supply all my needs” (Philippians 4:19), and “No weapon formed against us shall prosper” (Isaiah 54:17). - Learning and Investing in Myself
Books that build faith and capacity have been my lifeline. (See my Amazon picks below.)
Amazon Picks to Strengthen Faith and Courage
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- The Power of a Praying Parent by Stormie Omartian — a guide to interceding for your children.
- Kingdom Woman by Tony Evans — embracing womanhood in purpose.
- Rich Woman by Kim Kiyosaki — building financial independence.
- The Blessing by John Trent & Gary Smalley — how to give your children what they truly need.
- The Circle Maker by Mark Batterson — learning to pray bold, faith-filled prayers for breakthrough.
While none of these are quick fixes, they are powerful companions for your soul. Let them ignite hope as you wait for God’s provision.
Holding Your Dream: Keeping the Vision Alive
- Write it down. Use a vision board or a simple notebook. Seeing your goals reminds you of what you’re fighting for.
- Celebrate small wins. If you save even 100 shillings or get a word of encouragement, rejoice in it.
- Protect your mind. Avoid the voices that limit your belief and feed on the Word daily.
- Choose consistency over intensity. Slow faith is still faith — one prayer, one act at a time.
- Share your story. Vulnerability isn’t weakness; it’s ministry.
A Single Mum’s Prayer of Claiming Blessing
Lord,
You see me. You know me.
I ask — bless me indeed.
Enlarge my territory — in influence, in provision, in wisdom.
Let Your hand be upon me.
Keep me from harm. Protect my children.
When the voices say quit, speak louder.
When my heart trembles, remind me You are near.
Strengthen me to hold my dream.
I trust You.
I believe You will move.
In Jesus’ name, Amen.
Final Encouragement and Call to Action (CTA)
Dear single mum — you are not alone. Your tears are sacred, your prayers are heard, and your faith matters. Today, make a decision to claim blessing now. Don’t resign or shrink. God is working even when you don’t see it.
Read, Pray, and Act:
- Choose one of the books above and read a chapter this week.
- Revisit my posts The Cost of Leadership, Faith in Desperate Times, and Redemption for Families.
- Share this post with another woman who needs to hear: Don’t give up — claim blessing now.
- Leave a comment below: what’s one thing you’ll do this week to stretch your territory by faith?
I believe in you. God sees you. He’s not done yet.
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